Man. So here's this guy with ten swords in his back. Don't you think one would be enough to kill him?
When looking at this card things appear pretty grim, and while the Ten of Swords can symbolize absolute endings, it typically comes up for clients when they are overthinking something to death.
This thought loop is something that happens to the best of us. What is that person thinking of me after I said that weird thing? Which choice should I make?
The more that we overthink things, the more we detach from our center. Trust in yourself. Oft times our gut tells us what to do the second something is brought to us. We just usually decide to then embroider it with all kinds of garbage, mainly because of fear.
Sometimes that's fear of being wrong. Sometimes that's fear of maybe loneliness, if we think we may have to break off a relationship for our own good. The way to overcome this feeling is to cultivate our strength and trust in ourselves.
1. Listen to your gut on what you are drawn to doing. Then know that if some things go wrong with that choice later, you have the strength, courage, and guts to maneuver when figuring out what's next.
Fight for the joy of possibility, but anticipate succeeding no matter what occurs. Also, you never know what leads to the greater "what's next?". When you listen to your gut, you are being drawn somewhere for a reason, so let's say it doesn't work out. It's just another peg in your narrative moving you forward, if your desire is to move forward.
2. Step back, breathe, and meditate. I can't tell my clients enough how much meditation helps, and I speak from experience as an over-thinker myself. When your thoughts are overloaded so much that you can't think clearly, and can't hear your inner compass, have the self-respect to step back and breathe.
Take a walk. Meditate. On your own, through a guided meditation. Whatever it takes to calm your thoughts. Meditating does. It centers your energy and grounds you. You become disconnected from yourself when you think things into the ground, because you aren't trusting yourself with what you need or want.
3. Bring attention back to your values. What is it that is important to you? What do you want to feel? Is this situation measuring up?
I was once offered a writing job that offered me a lot of zeros, but would have made me miserable. My gut instinct was to say no, but then I started thinking about everything I could pay off, do or buy. But, I would've been spending hours with people who didn't resonate with me and writing things I wasn't passionate about. I turned it down, but only after I agonized over the decision.
I wanted a life that was fulfilling, that deeply resonated with me, doing work that I care about and can be proud of. The thing about when you dial it back to asking about your values, you have to also have the FAITH that the universe is going to bring you the situations that support those values.
It's always the twilight zone of in between that gets us into trouble - and leads us to overthink. The second your gut starts saying that there is more, there is, and you should go seeking it and cut out anything blocking your path to it. Bring focus back to the narrative you want to create. You are more in control than you realize.
